We All Need Some Closure

Have you ever had a relationship that ended badly and just wished that you could have one more day to set things straight? Do you have things that you would like to say but probably won’t ever get the chance to?

I bet it’s safe to say that we’ve all been in that position at one point or another. When a relationship ends, we are hurting. We often say things that we don’t mean because secretly we want our ex-partner to feel our hurt. We want to punish them and come up with all sorts of creative ways to do so. Sometimes we don’t mean to do these things. We just don’t know what else to do. We get caught up in the heat of the moment and let it carry us away.

I think what we need to remember is that we loved this person at one point. We might have lost that feeling somewhere down the line but that feeling was there and probably still is somewhere, even if we can’t see it or feel it. We should also remember that the other person is probably already hurting.

So instead of hurting each other further, I think we need to help each other through the hurt.

Let’s face it, a break-up is a tough thing to deal with. It is much easier to get through it if you have someone to talk to. And what better person to talk to than the person you used to share so much with. If there were those strong feelings there for each other at one point, doesn’t it make sense to work through this hurt together?

Of course, this is probably easier said than done. It sounds easier to just cut all ties and have nothing further to do with this person. But your mind probably won’t let you off that easy. You will think about your ex. You will have things you wished you’d have said. You will want to have some closure to the relationship. So why not work on getting these things?

Talk with each other. Listen and don’t judge. Apologize, if you need to. Accept that things didn’t work out but try not to have any bitter feelings about it.

I wished that I had been able to do these things on more than one occasion in my life. So if you have the chance to, and you can figure out how to be friendly with your ex, please try to. You can be friendly without being friends. You can talk things out and then go your separate ways.

Sometimes things just don’t work out and it really is for the best. So get the closure that you need, move on, and be thankful for the opportunity.

2 responses to “We All Need Some Closure”

  1. Hi ECD,

    I don't think real love ever does die. I think once you have loved someone, a part of your heart will always stay with that person and you will think about them time and time again.

    However, it is unhealthy to stay stuck on something that has ended. I have learned that since I started this blog. I have learned that true love does exist. And I have learned that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Knowing these things and having a good discussion with your ex can only help you get some closure and move on. That is my philosophy anyway.