Tell Her She’s Beautiful

Is that true?

Do beautiful girls need to hear that they are beautiful?

And if so, how do we do that?

I’ve wanted to compliment women before on their beauty but I’ve often been afraid of the reception I’d get. I don’t want to make someone feel uncomfortable. I don’t want to put forth unwanted comments. And I don’t want to come off as sexist.

So what do I do?

I’m not talking about cat-calling either. Men have no business shouting at a woman, whistling, or make rude gestures. I’m talking about a sincere compliment with no attached awkwardness or sexual pressure.

For example, last week I went downtown. I walked past a bus stop and noticed a young lady waiting for the bus. She looked like she might have been a college student. She was absolutely stunning. I walked past her and thought to myself, “She is gorgeous!”

I didn’t say anything, however, because I didn’t know how to.

Can you tell a random person that you find her attractive? Do some of these women want to hear such a compliment? And what you about someone you know? Can you tell a co-worker that she looks good on a given day?

What do you think? 

For the guys out there, do you compliment women often on their beauty? And how do you go about it?

For the ladies, do you like to hear compliments on your beauty? Does it make you uncomfortable?

Please leave a comment below and add to the discussion.


6 responses to “Tell Her She’s Beautiful”

  1. Hi Chase .. you can probably do it to an older lady .. especially if you're in the same queue or place waiting for something .. but if it's a young person out of the blue .. I'd be wary especially in this day and age.

    If it's a relative or friend's friend etc .. then again I'm sure that'd be fine ..

    And yes – it's always nice to know we're appreciated and ? pretty!

    Cheers Hilary

  2. Great question, Chase! I wish every woman could truly understand that there is something about her that makes her beautiful. Regardless of her shape, size, ethnic background, economic status, educational level, there's something about her that deserves a compliment, a sincere compliment. Yet how to do it, how to say it, is something that men don't always get right.

  3. Hi Hilary,

    There are so many images that young women are bombarded with. Images that probably have them comparing themselves to air-brushed super-models. These young ladies probably need to hear compliments more often, but like you said, that's a hard thing to do in this day and age. Perhaps, it shouldn't be.

    Hi ECD,

    I completely agree with you.

    Unfortunately, I am horrible at giving such compliments.

    Thanks for the comments!

  4. Yes, depending on the circumstance. Unfortunately, I think if you randomly approached someone, they'd assume you were hitting on them. I have been told on occasion, but only during or after a conversation, often while I was waiting tables in university. Still happens once in a while, providing a much-needed all-over good feeling (especially after popping out a couple of kids!).

    I think the important thing though is to remember to tell your lady or loved ones that they are beautiful. A little bit goes a long way, and the most meaningful compliments come from the ones that matter most to you.

    Merry Christmas, Chase. <3