“If I just ask for a volunteer, my students sit on their hands and look away. You’ve been there. You can almost feel your back muscles tense as you think, Oh please, don’t call on me.
So I don’t ask. Instead, I say, ‘In case you’re worried about volunteering to role-play with me in front of the class, I want to tell you in advance . . . it’s going to be horrible.’
After the laughter dies down, I then say, ‘And those of you who do volunteer will probably get more out of this than anyone else.’
I always end up with more volunteers than I need.
Now, look at what I did there: I prefaced the conversation by labeling my audience’s fears; how much worse can something be than ‘horrible’? I defuse them and wait, letting it sink in and thereby making the unreasonable see less forbidding.’
Great words of wisdom from Chris Voss in his book, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if your life depended on it. He was teaching a room full of hostage negotiators but there are great implications here for teachers of all subject areas and ages.
Books aimed at teachers are great but you can learn a lot about our profession by expanding beyond the educational aisle of your library or bookstore. I often find little lessons like this in the various non-fiction, and sometimes even fiction, books I read. And I am glad I could share them with you here.
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